183: Parenting is Not Finished at 18 with Brooklyn Holland

In this conversation, Jay and David discuss the evolving challenges faced by children and adolescents in today's world, particularly in the context of counseling. They explore the importance of emotional regulation, the balance between naming feelings and navigating them, and the need for parents to find a healthy middle ground in their approach to parenting. The discussion also highlights the significance of building resilience in children through healthy risks and practical strategies, such as the 'exposures and ladders' approach to overcoming anxiety. Additionally, they introduce the Daystar Dog Series, which aims to teach resilience through stories featuring therapy dogs.

Takeaways

• The same child development principles apply today as in the past.

• Technology has significantly impacted the challenges children face.

• Parents may overcorrect in their approach to emotional support.

• Naming emotions is important, but navigating them is crucial.

• Resilience in children is diminishing due to overprotection.

• Healthy risks are essential for children's growth and development.

• Parents should reflect on what they do for their children that they could do themselves.

• Anxiety often stems from avoiding discomfort and challenges.

• Exposures and ladders can help children face their fears.

• Storytelling through the Daystar Dog Series can teach resilience.

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Bio

David Thomas, LMSW, is co-executive director of Daystar Counseling in Nashville, Tennessee, and the author of 10 books including his most recent book, Raising Emotionally Strong Boys (Bethany, June 2022). A frequent media guest and speaker, David has spoken to hundreds of thousands in person and millions via his Top 10 kids & family podcast, Raising Boys and Girls, now with more than 10 million downloads since its launch in 2018. Learn more at RaisingBoysAndGirls.com.

Resources mentioned:

Raising Boys and Girls website

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In this episode, Jay Holland discusses the often-overlooked practice of fasting within the Christian faith. He shares personal reflections on his struggles with fasting, its biblical foundations, and the spiritual benefits it can bring to one's life, marriage, and parenting. Jay emphasizes the importance of humility and submission to God through fasting, encouraging listeners to consider making it a regular part of their spiritual journey.

Takeaways

• Fasting is a practice that can lead to spiritual breakthroughs.

• Jesus expected his followers to fast, just as they pray and give.

• Fasting is often under-taught and under-practiced in the Christian community.

• Fasting can help with clarity in decision-making and spiritual direction.

• The act of fasting cultivates humility and dependence on God.

• Fasting can aid in repentance and soften one's heart.

• Fasting is a way to tame the flesh and resist temptation.

• Fasting is not about manipulating God but seeking His will earnestly.

• Regular fasting can lead to a deeper relationship with God.

• Fasting should be approached with a heart of humility and submission.

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Jay Holland and Aaron Smith explore the transformative power of the gospel and prayer in relationships, particularly in marriage. They discuss the importance of recognizing one's identity in Christ, the challenges of receiving correction, and the significance of prayer as a means to align hearts with God's will. The discussion also highlights the 31-Day Marriage Prayer Challenge, designed to encourage couples to pray for each other and deepen their spiritual connection. Through personal anecdotes and biblical insights, they emphasize that prayer not only changes circumstances but also transforms individuals, fostering a deeper understanding of love and grace in relationships.

Takeaways

• Seeing your marriage as a ministry is crucial.

• It's important to not sacrifice family for ministry.

• Authenticity in leadership is essential for true connection.

• Accountability helps prevent disqualification in ministry.

• Being transparent about struggles fosters genuine relationships.

• Elders and deacons play a vital role in church health.

• Critique should be received with humility and openness.

• The gospel provides a foundation for handling criticism.

• True fellowship involves knowing and being known by others.

• Leadership requires both leading and being approachable.  The gospel reveals our true selves and lifts us up.

• Receiving correction is essential for growth.

• Prayer is a powerful tool for transformation in marriage.

• The 31-Day Prayer Challenge encourages couples to pray for each other.

• Prayer prompts help couples focus on specific needs.

• Aligning our hearts with God's will is crucial in prayer.

• Prayer changes our perspective on our spouse.

• The Holy Spirit guides us in our prayers.

• Gratitude in prayer opens our hearts to God's blessings.

• We can approach God directly in prayer, which is empowering.

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Bio

Aaron Smith is a Christian author, speaker, and co-founder of Marriage After God, a ministry dedicated to helping couples center their marriages on Christ. Alongside his wife, Jennifer, Aaron has written several books, including Marriage After God and 31 Prayers for My Spouse, equipping husbands and wives with biblical wisdom for a thriving, God-honoring relationship. Through blogging, social media, and the Marriage After God Podcast, Aaron encourages men to embrace their role as spiritual leaders in their homes. He is passionate about discipleship, marriage, and helping couples grow in faith together.

Resources mentioned:

https://marriageaftergod.com

The Marriage After God Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/mag-marriage-advice-relationship-encouragement-we-discuss/id1349500084

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Jay Holland and Chris Sasser explore the concept of emotional baggage that children carry into adulthood, particularly focusing on the pressures of performance, the importance of healthy relationships, and the role of parental influence. Chris shares insights from his book 'Bags', discussing common emotional burdens children face and practical ways parents can help lighten their load. The discussion emphasizes the significance of understanding one's identity in Christ and fostering connections over mere content delivery in parenting.

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Bio

Chris Sasser (a.k.a.Sass) is the Pastor of Family Ministries at Port City Community Church in Wilmington, NC. He has served in full-time ministry since 1993, working with childrens, middle school, high school, college, and parent ministries. He has a passion for equipping and encouraging parents and leaders to help the next generation walk with God. Chris shares thoughts and ideas at www.equipandencourage.com and loves to share with students, leaders, and parents. Chris is married to Karin, and they have two young adult children, CJ and Kylie. 

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www.equipandencourage.com

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In this conversation, Jay Holland and Eliza Huey continue to explore the complexities of trauma, its effects on individuals, and the importance of support systems. They discuss the evolution of understanding trauma, the role of God in times of suffering, and how Scripture can provide comfort. The conversation also delves into the concept of post-traumatic growth, emphasizing that trauma can lead to spiritual resilience and deeper faith. They highlight the need for proper trauma care, which includes establishing safety, processing experiences, and integrating them into one's life. Additionally, they address the challenges of information overload in today's world and how it can exacerbate feelings of trauma.

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Bio

Eliza Huie is a licensed professional counselor (LPC) trained in trauma care. She serves as a seminary instructor, facilitating certificate-level training in biblical counseling, and has authored several books, including her latest, Trauma Aware: A Christians Guide to Providing Help and Care. Eliza co-hosts Counsel for Life, a podcast about mental health and the Christian life. 

Resources mentioned:

https://www.elizahuie.com/

Trauma Aware: A Christians Guide to Providing Help and Care

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