Midlife Momma

Avoid these 10 phrases and learn to speak life instead.
Communication doesnt have to be hard as long as we remember some guiding principles to speak life over our children. Lets talk about awareness, humility, and the power of empathy.
HELPFUL LINKS:
Free Guide: 10 Things Not to Say to Your Adult Child (and 5 Ways to Stop Yourself from Saying Them) here
Free Discovery Session with certified Empty Nest Coach, Pamela here
Take the free 2-minute Quiz here
Review + Rate podcast here
Follow Pamela on Instagram here
Follow Pamela on Facebook here
Pamela's website with free resources here
No mother intends to hurt her grown child with her words, and yet she does.
Without realizing it, we can make our kids feel guilty, criticized, or like they never quite measure up. Tune in for 10 phrases not to say to your adult child.
HELPFUL LINKS:
Free Guide: 10 Things Not to Say to Your Adult Child here
Free Discovery Session with certified Empty Nest Coach, Pamela here
Take the free 2-minute Quiz here
Review + Rate podcast here
Follow Pamela on Instagram here
Follow Pamela on Facebook here
Pamela's website with free resources here
Youre not the only one struggling to communicate in your marriage.
Join Bob and Pamela Henkelman for a candid conversation about how theyve struggled to communicate effectively in their marriage. Theyll share lessons theyve learned and offer practical tools to strengthen communication with your spouse.
HELPFUL LINKS:
Free Guide: Marriage Awareness Worksheet here
Free Discovery Session with certified Empty Nest Coach, Pamela here
Take the free 2-minute Quiz here
Review + Rate podcast here
Follow Pamela on Instagram here
Follow Pamela on Facebook here
Pamela's website with free resources here
Have you ever tried I feel statements with your husband?
They are a great way to help you be honest and communicate with understanding instead of blame. We also talk about focusing on fun and seeking professional help when you feel stuck in a negative communication pattern in your empty nest.
HELPFUL LINKS:
Free Guide: Marriage Awareness Worksheet here
Free Discovery Session with certified Empty Nest Coach Pamela here
Take the free 2-minute Quiz here
Review + Rate the podcast here
Follow Pamela on Instagram here
Follow Pamela on Facebook here
Pamela's website with free resources here
Lets learn some practical tools to reconnect and strengthen our communication.
Incorporate intentional conversations(how-tos in the show notes), practice active listening, and embrace grace and forgiveness.
Daily Check-In Script:
Person A starts by saying:
I feel __ _ _ _ about my work.
myself
us
children
spirituality
After each feeling statement, the partner mirrors why they just heard without correcting, blaming, shaming, trying to fix, or arguing with their partner. Try to avoid feeling words like good, bad, fine, ok, etc, since they lack depth. When Person A is finished and Person B has mirrored each item back, its Person Bs turn.
Example: Person A: "I felt pretty frustrated about work since two people called in sick, and I had to cover their jobs and couldnt get my projects done.
Person B: So it was pretty frustrating you had to do other people's jobs.
Check-ins dont have to take a lot of time; it can take less than 5 minutes. Have some ritual about how and who starts this. Otherwise, the person who always feels like they have to initiate or prompt the other one to check-in will feel discouraged.
Check-ins take practice and repetition and may feel awkward initially, but ultimately, youll feel more connected.
HELPFUL LINKS:
Free Guide: Marriage Awareness Worksheet here
Free Discovery Session with certified Empty Nest Coach, Pamela here
Take the free 2-minute Quiz here
Review + Rate podcast here
Follow Pamela on Instagram here
Follow Pamela on Facebook here
Pamela's website with free resources here
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